Are some traits "good" or "bad"?

Some traits do require more effort for parents (and children) to manage. The sensitive child may be bothered by bright lights and noise. The highly active child needs lots of ways to work off energy. However, for each trait that takes more parent effort, there is also a bright side that becomes more apparent as time goes by.

  • The sensitive child, may be more artistic because of increased awareness. Or this child may notice and be more responsive to the feelings of others.
  • Active children enjoy getting the exercise needed for good health and may become successful in sports.
  • Intense children may do well in drama or in leading important causes. They aren't likely to be ignored. (On medical wards, they get more pain medication!)
  • The child who holds back in new situations is unlikely to rush into danger.
  • The child who adapts slowly to parents' wishes may be less influenced by adolescent peer pressure. Because they don't like surprises, they gradually become natural planners.
  • The child who is irregular in eating and sleeping may fit better into jobs with varied work schedules.
  • Easily frustrated children like to work with others so help is near-by when needed. Thus they have motivation to develop social skills. They also have good reason to focus on their natural talents and abilities-whatever those may be.
  • Distractible children know what is going on around them and often become good at multi-tasking.


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