All temper tantrums are not the same. What will help for
Some are predictable, as when
you take the remote control from the hand of a determined
Others seem to come out of the blue.
Tantrums are related to age—they are especially
common in 2- and 4-year olds, and they are related to
biology—tanturms are more common when your child is hungry
However, parents are more often surprised and frustrated
by tantrums that are related to inborn temperament.
Certain temperament traits make tantrums more likely. For
High-Sensitivity children are in a busy or noisy
Low-Adaptability children have had too
many recent or unexpected changes.
children face necessary limits.
children don’t get enough exercise.
(also called Low-Approach) children
are pushed too quickly into new activities.
How can I learn about my child’s
Fill in a temperament questionnaire and immediately
see a profile of your toddler or preschooler’s temperament.
The thumbnail examples below show how different children
are in terms of low or high temperament traits.
(click to enlarge)
Then learn how to prevent
and/or manage tantrums in ways that are tailored to your
Temperament helps you understand what triggers tantrums in
your home. The Preventive Ounce then explains which ones
can you prevent and how to manage the others. Gradually,
you can teach more grown-up ways to behave.
Learn to work with inborn traits rather than struggle against
History: The temperament traits discussed
here were first described by Drs. Stella Chess and Alexander
Thomas. More than 40,000 parents have used the Preventive
Ounce to make parenting easier and to avoid unnecessary
blame and guilt.
Who should use this program? ALL parents. Each
child has a temperament, and every temperament has different issues
What age should my child be? The program serves:
$10, a 1-year family membership lets you:
- Fill out 4 temperament profiles on
4 different infants, toddlers, or preschoolers, or different
adults can complete profiles on the same baby/child.
- Have access to individualized parenting
strategies for 1 year.
Your $ also help maintain and upgrade
this non-profit website. Thank you.